“A loving doe, a graceful deer- may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love. Why be captivated, my son, by an adulteress? Why embrace the bosom of another man’s wife? For a man’s ways are in full view of the LORD, and he examines all his paths.” This passage from Proverbs 5:9-21 sets up the tone for this week’s sermon at ROCC Jenks Church on ‘How to Affair Proof Your Marriage’.
This week’s sermon is a continuation of the Ten Words- A Study of the 10 Commandments. This week is based on “You shall not commit adultery.” (Exodus 20:14)
Guest speaker, Jeff Phillips, will be walking ROCC Jenks Church through the steps of why marriage can fall apart and lead to adultery.
The various verses throughout the sermon will relate back to adultery and why husband and wife shouldn’t disobey and commit adultery. Maybe they are confused? The sermon starts off with the 3 Pitfalls that Cause Adultery:
- Unfilled needs
- Unresolved conflict
- Unmet expectations
The pitfalls listed above are usually the ones that lead to adultery. In 1 Peter 3:7 he said, “In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together.” Marriage is built on trust, love, and understanding. Marriage just doesn’t happen, it’s a work in progress. With being a work in progress, most marriages will experience unfilled needs from time to time. When one another feels this way, communication should set in deep with another to resolve the issue.
Leading up to the second pitfall, there is unresolved conflict. Unresolved conflict can derive from anything. It can come from a little fight that expands to a big fight over time or someone is holding something inside that they should share with their spouse. “No one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other.” (Matthew 6:24) All marriages will have their tiffs and fights, it’s only human. Fights should be fights and only last until the issue is resolved. Having said, fighting shouldn’t conclude with adultery.
The third pitfall that causes adultery are unmet expectations. Unmet expectations could mean a plethora of things such as waiting for your “soul mate” or identifying the source of the expectations. In James 1:19-20 it says, “My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.” What he is trying to convey is listening is key. Speaking should come after listening very carefully while thinking about what you’re going to say or act out next.
For this sermon, it’s to showcase your flaws or needs or expectations towards one another and not bottle them up inside. Be more understanding and less angry with one another.
For more of the sermon, please join us on Sunday, November 1 for ‘How to Affair Proof Your Marriage’.